Feb 27, 2016 17:54
8 yrs ago
English term

think through how you feel about your response

English Other General / Conversation / Greetings / Letters book about parenting
Hi,
I’m not sure about the meaning of “think through how you feel about” in the passage below. It’s a book about parenting and the author is asking parents to think about their typical reactions to their child's tantrums, loss of control etc.

This is the passage:

One of the main purposes of this chapter is to allow you to get clear on how you typically respond to your children when they are struggling emotionally, and to help you * think through how you feel about * your typical response to their needs

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Might this be a possible interpretation? (I’m not sure at all, though...)

“One of the main purposes is to become aware of your typical response (...) and * to evaluate it carefully? *

Thank you very much in advance for any hints!

Discussion

AllegroTrans Mar 1, 2016:
A feeling is totally different to a thought or an opinion - it is the spontaneous inner reaction to an event, situation or individual which a person is experiencing or thinking about. It is expressed by a "feeling" word in one of the 4 categories of human feelings - joy, sadness, anger or fear.
Alice Yang (X) Feb 29, 2016:
Haribert, you're welcome. Good luck with your work.
BdiL, thank you.
BdiL Feb 29, 2016:
I believe both Alice L Yang and Charles Davis hit the bull's eye. (Wow, Charles! Irony can be very supportive, though sulphureous.)
haribert (asker) Feb 29, 2016:
Alice, I think my author is certainly interested in helping parents become aware of their emotions, but also in helping them become aware of their thoughts, bodily sensations and mental images about parenting...
I suspect "feel about" encompasses all of this..maybe I can use more than one word to convey its meaning...

Thank you again and have a nice week!
Alice Yang (X) Feb 28, 2016:
You're welcome, Haribert. I worked for 15 years in the field of children's social-emotional learning, which encompasses their social-emotional learning at school and at home. People in that field talk a lot about the importance of adults helping children become aware of their emotions as well as becoming aware their own emotions as they interact with children. Of course I don't know if your author is concerned about this as well. Just a thought.
haribert (asker) Feb 28, 2016:
Robert Forstag I'm sorry you've decided to hide your proposal...I think it was very useful..

haribert (asker) Feb 28, 2016:
Alice, Thank you very much for your contribution: that was actually my doubt! I'm not sure whether "feel about" was used in a more "rational" way - anayse, judge - or also in a more emotional, "visceral" way...maybe both aspects are involved...






Charles Davis Feb 27, 2016:
Talk about navel-gazing This is meta-introspection.
Alice Yang (X) Feb 27, 2016:
To me the words "how you feel" are crucial. Seems to me the author may be trying to say "to help you become aware of your emotions toward" your typical response, not just analyze the response itself. For example, do you feel at peace about how you responded, or do you feel worried or guilty? That's different from analyzing whether the response itself was effective in meeting the child's needs, matched what's being taught at school, runs counter to what is being reinforced by popular media, etc.
Alice Yang (X) Feb 27, 2016:
Jonathan -- Ha! Very funny. Thanks for making me laugh out loud.
Jonathan MacKerron Feb 27, 2016:
And while all this "thinking through" is going on the kids are destroying the kitchen...
I remember how my parents would "think through their response", just before they smacked me good.
Jack Doughty Feb 27, 2016:
Relevant saying It wouldn't do as an answer, but "Engage brain before engaging mouth" comes to mind.

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analyse how you typically respond

Yes, your interpretation is correct. It's rather awkwardly expressed, and could be a lot more concise.

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Note added at 43 mins (2016-02-27 18:38:09 GMT)
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In response to your comment below, the English word "analyse" means both to evaluate something and to form a judgment or opinion about it.
Note from asker:
Thanks, Phil! I was wondering, though, whether there is also "evaluation" or "judgment" involved after analysing.. (If I'm not mistaken, "feel about" might mean also "have an opinion"...)
Thank you very much for your explanation!
Peer comment(s):

agree Sheri P
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agree Veronika McLaren
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agree Tina Vonhof (X)
21 hrs
neutral AllegroTrans : OK, but it's asking for the expression of a feeling more than an analysis
1 day 4 hrs
agree Tushar Deep
1 day 21 hrs
agree Daryo
3 days 4 hrs
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