Glossary entry (derived from question below)
English term
caul of shame
I’m not sure about how to interpret the metaphor “caul of shame” in the passage below, written by a psychiatrist about the experience and the effects of shame.
I’ve seen that “caul” also means “amnion which encloses the foetus before birth, especially that part of it which sometimes shrouds a baby’s head at birth (traditionally considered to be good luck)”.
So I was wondering whether the author might have used this word to create a sort of “bitter” comparison between a “caul as a sign of good luck” and a caul that in this case shrouds the child with shame from infancy.
My doubt is: when you read the sentence, you also think of the original meaning of “caul” as a possible sign of good luck or do you think “caul” is used just in the sense of something that wraps the child with shame?
Thank you so much for your patience!
Here is the passage:
Acute shame can be understood as leading to the development of enduring shame-laden mental states Early experiences of repetitive shame lead to chronic shame that is dyed in the wool from which the fabric of an unsuspecting child’s mental life is spun, *** a caul of shame ***created so early that it has the subjective experience of a given.
3 +3 | garment of shame | Tomasso |
3 +1 | Paralysis of toxic shame | Irín Ní Mhurchú |
3 -1 | شرم مزمن | Elmira Soleimanirad |
Jun 8, 2024 04:02: Tomasso Created KOG entry
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garment of shame
Thank you so much, Tomasso, for your valuable contribution and the useful link in the Discussion1 |
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Sebastian Magoto
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Chantale Flentge
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Omri Ofek Luzon
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Yvonne Gallagher
: too thin to be described as a "garment" I think main emphasis shoud be on the fact it has been there since birth
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Paralysis of toxic shame
The 'caul' being the barrier acts as a form of paralysis to the full blossoming and growth of the individual.
These are my thoughts on the matter.
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/what-toxic-shame-5-signs-tips-overcome-kamini-wood
https://www.audreyjollytherapy.com/site/blog/2014/02/05/shame--guilt--healthy-or-toxic
Thank you very much, Irin, for your interesting contribution! |
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Yvonne Gallagher
: yes, this is basically what it means. A barrier since birth, a veil that hasn't lifted at all so impeding development
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liz askew
: I prefer "veil of shame", no mention of "toxic".
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شرم مزمن
I'm sorry, but I don't understand your language... |
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