Jun 1, 2016 11:08
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Stinky Steve

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Hi,
I’m trying to understand what kind of image the character “Stinky Steve” mentioned below can convey to a little child. The passage below is taken from a book on parenting and contains a few suggestions on how to teach kids to take control of their worrying thoughts: in this case, it refers to Separation anxiety at school drop off (I think “school” in this case is to be understood as “preschool” or “daycare center”)

I’ve seen the story of Stinky Steve here - http://stinkysteve.com/faq - but it seems to relate to somewhat older kids. O maybe is Stinky Steve also a character from fairy tales I don’t know?

I was wondering whether in this context Stinky Steve can be compared to Talking Cricket in the book Pinocchio, but I’m not sure...

Thanks for any hint!

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Teach your child about not having to believe all her thoughts, and have her imagine talking to her brain whenever she hears it making unhelpful comments. Remind her that she can argue with her brain.

You can even teach her to name that negative voice inside her. In making this silly, you relieve some of the tension while helping her see that she has control over the situation. When she starts to get upset at being dropped off, bring up that negative voice in a gently joking way: “Is that ** Stinky Steve ** talking again? Stinky Steve doesn’t know anything about your school! Stinky Steve, stop telling Lucy that Mommy won’t come back – you’re always trying to trick her! Lucy, what do you want to tell Stinky Steve?” Have your child write down (or tell you) all the thoughts she has about being dropped off at school. Put them into two columns – one for helpful thoughts, one for unhelpful thoughts. Then have a conversation with Stinky Steve (or whatever name you give that negative voice).
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just a name given to an alter-ego type character/voice

it has nothing to do with the cannabis link you quote . it may arise from the children's comi character dog but imo is more likely just to be a random name chosen for a fictitious alter-ego-type character used to explain thing to kids or calm them down...
"teach her to name that negative voice inside her...
Stinky Steve (or whatever name you give that negative voice)"
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alter_ego

http://www.dogobooks.com/stinky-steve-im-taking-a-selfie-sti...

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Note added at 48 mins (2016-06-01 11:56:56 GMT)
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children often have this ability of having imaginary friends and sharing their fears and concerns with them So I think this is a case of having the child blame an inner voice by naming it and putting their fear/distress onto them so they can better control it.
" by making this silly, you relieve some of the tension while helping her see that she has control over the situation."

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Note added at 49 mins (2016-06-01 11:58:04 GMT)
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in other words, "Stinky Steve" could be any other name the child comes up with

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Note added at 59 mins (2016-06-01 12:08:20 GMT)
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http://www.ericberne.com/transactional-analysis/

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Note added at 5 days (2016-06-07 10:34:20 GMT) Post-grading
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glad to have helped.
Note from asker:
Thank you very much, Gallagy! I thought, too, it was unlikely to refer to this specific “cannabis” character, but I couldn’t find any reference to other characters...that’s why I've decided to ask, just to be sure it wasn’t a “specific” reference
Peer comment(s):

agree AllegroTrans : OK, but could also be described as the child ego state (per Eric Berne etc.)
5 mins
Thanks:-) I've added link
agree Terry Richards
6 mins
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agree P.L.F. Persio
10 mins
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agree Yasutomo Kanazawa
26 mins
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agree Victoria Britten : Yes, could just as well be Smelly Sarah or Nasty Nick or Hateful Hermione...
55 mins
Thanks:-) yes indeed
agree B D Finch : Sounds like a really bad naming idea to me: might encourage the child to call other children names, especially if there's a Stephen in the class.
1 hr
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agree Edith Kelly
1 hr
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agree Robert Forstag
1 hr
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agree Sheila Wilson : I agree with your assessment, Gallagy; however, I personally think the whole idea stinks // I must have been an old-fashioned parent, then. I just told my kid I'd be back. He believed me for 20 years, then I went on a one-week holiday to Fuerteventura...
2 hrs
Thanks:-) Oh? I'd have thought it fairly common? That's new-fangled child-psychology for you:-)//and never came back? LOL
agree LSanders : Gallagy is right, but the parenting advice is terrible!!!
4 hrs
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